Friends are often the first to recognize serious problems even before the individual with the problem. This can make for an awkward situation. You love your friend and do not want to see them hurt, but you don't want to add to the hurt.
What should a true friend do? Here are some things to consider if you choose to confront your friend about their problem:
Tactfully and kindly bring up the situation.
Ask questions to draw them out.
Mention how it makes you feel and why you feel that way.
Keep control over your own emotions.
Reassure them of your love for them. You love them but not what they are doing.
If they deny it, don't take it personal.
Offer to help them. Reassure them of your support and offer practical suggestions. Perhaps have in mind a list of referrals.
Each individual will react differently. You may need to prepare yourself for the fact that your friend may be mad or angry with you. Even though they may respond negatively, remind yourself that you did this out of love and respect for your friend. Usually once the person seeks the help they need, they will then acknowledge you as a true friend.
If you have a friend in the Portland, Oregon/Vancouver, Washington area who is in need of therapy, please have them contact my office for more information.