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How Can You Tell if You’re Codependent of Your Aspie?

Monday, January 29, 2018


Merriam-Webster defines codependence as “a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (such as an addiction to alcohol or heroin); broadly: dependence on the needs of or control by another.”

What are some signs of codependency? If you answer “yes” to the following questions, you’re codependent…

  • Does your sense of purpose involve making extraordinary sacrifices to satisfy your partner's needs?
  • Is it difficult to say “no” when your partner makes demands on your time and energy?
  • Do you cover for your partner’s social faux pas, substance abuse, or problems with the law?
  • Do you constantly worry about others’ opinions of you?
  • Do you feel trapped in your relationship?
  • Do you keep quiet to avoid arguments?

Healthy relationships take a lot of work, and they begin with knowing who you are, what you want, what your higher purpose is. If those things get overshadowed, neglected, or stifled because of your partner, you’re suffering from codependency.

So what is the likelihood that you’re codependent of your Aspie? Extremely high. You can't help it. The moment your Aspie leaves something undone, you take over; that's codependency. The moment your Aspie walks away before you've finished your sentence, and you let it go or follow him/her around trying to be heard; that's codependency. The moment you make excuses to others for your Aspie's rude or thoughtless conduct; that's codependency. The moment you warn your children to avoid annoying their Aspie parent or sibling; that's codependency.

The worst part about codependency is waking up one day to realize that you've become so codependent that you're not sure who you are anymore. You have fully become the structure underpinning the life of another. Your own sense of self and your self-worth are nonexistent. Evidence of you still exists in the form of memories when you used to laugh and be creative, and you could sleep peacefully instead of fitfully. Shall I go on?

Our next Asperger Syndrome: Partners & Family of Adults with ASD Meetup is going host the free, international teleconference entitled: Am I Codependent? It will be held on Thursday, February 15th at 2:30 PM PT. It will set the tone for getting the New Year off to a good start by taking back your own life! I'm looking forward to meeting the real you and you and you.

If you prefer to work with me one-on-one and you live near Portland, OR/Vancouver, WA please contact my Jantzen Beach office and schedule an appointment. I also offer online therapy if that works best for your busy schedule.



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