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How to Decide Which Kind of Therapy Is the Best Option for You

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

If you picture therapy as laying on a couch talking about your feelings, then you need to read up on some of new therapeutic approaches available.What do you envision when you think of going to therapy? Do you picture someone lying on a couch while a psychologist sits next to him with a notepad and pencil in hand? While some approaches do utilize this method, there are numerous types of therapy that can be used to help you overcome challenges. In all cases, the goal of therapy is to provide an environment that allows the client and therapist to work together openly and honestly toward a mutually agreed upon set of goals.

If you are considering starting therapy, know that there are many different types of therapy you can utilize. The success of any therapeutic approach depends on the needs of you as an individual. For this reason, many therapists use elements of several approaches. Your therapy should feel comfortable to you even as it challenges you to progress and develop.

Understanding how different therapies work and operate will help you determine whether your needs are being met, or what type of therapy might give you better results. Here are a few of the many types of therapy available to you that I have found to be particularly effective for many clients:

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – This type of therapy addresses the way people think. The techniques are designed to change faulty, irrational thinking into more constructive, solution-oriented thinking.

Often people are stuck because they have a belief from childhood that keeps them from living the way they wished they could. During Cognitive Behavioral Therapy you are confronted with these beliefs and offered a new way of thinking about them. For example, just because your parents were divorced, does not mean you are incapable of learning the tools necessary for maintaining a satisfying relationship.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is usually considered short-term therapy. The reason for this is that the therapist is focusing on a specific problem. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy has been used successfully with a variety of issues from depression, to low self-esteem, to relationship dysfunction, to phobias, and anxiety. Once that problem is resolved, the therapy is complete unless there are other issues you with to work on.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) – This is a complex model of human communication. Essentially, there is a formula regarding how persons take in sensory impressions, organizes their impressions through memory and decision-making, and then translates those impressions into a response. NLP utilizes specific interventions and communications to change those responses to be more positive.

This system of therapy that enables people to reach more success in their chosen endeavors.  Goal-setting, negotiating, problem-solving, and creating become more streamlined and successful when you are equipped with a structure and formula to follow.

NeuroEmotionalTechnique (NET) – This type of therapy treats behavioral and physical conditions through identifying and removing the neurological imbalances related to the physiology of unresolved stress. Normally we process stress and let it go. Sometimes, however, a disruption and imbalance occurs.

For example, you drive in rush hour traffic daily, automatically taking evasive action or jamming on the brakes when necessary. Your hands may sweat, your heart pumps faster, adrenaline rushes through your body. Your body engages its “fight or flight” response. But after the event ends, you calm down and forget it.

However, when something disrupts this natural letting-go process, your body may produce that same stress reaction when it's triggered by a memory. Often you'll be unaware of the connection. This unresolved stress can cause physiological problems such as pain, allergies, and headaches. It may also cause psychological problems such as anxiety and depression.

A NET practitioner can pinpoint your very real physiological response (such as a racing heart and profuse sweating) to a stimulus (a situation that brings up the unresolved stress reaction memory). Once the system is brought back into balance, your mind and body can heal, relieving you of the symptoms caused by your unresolved stress.

Clinical hypnosis – This is a process used for treating psychological and physical problems. Through hypnosis a person achieves a relaxed state in which their conscious and unconscious mind become focused and ready to receive therapeutic suggestions. When used professionally, hypnosis is safe, relaxing, and refreshing.

Hypnosis can be used to assist you in resolving smoking and weight control, fears, depression, anxiety, stress, sexual problems, alcoholism, pain control, confidence building, memory and concentration, retrieving repressed memories, even to facilitate physical healing.

The first step is to get in contact with a trained therapist who can help you set goals, pinpoint what you want to work on, and formulate a treatment plan just for you. Please contact my office to set up an appointment. I have an office in Jantzen Beach where we could talk in person. Or take advantage of my online therapy option if that is a better fit for you. I can tailor therapy to your individual needs and goals to help you reach your full potential.

Four Easy Ways to Give Your Mood and Your Health a Boost

Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Woman reading bookHave you ever physically felt an emotion? When you’re nervous, have you noticed that your stomach feels funny? When you’re excited you may feel your nerves tingling and your heart beating faster. When you’re sad, you feel sore and fatigued.
The reason for this is that there is an inseparable connection between the mind and the body. There are complicated interactions that take place between your mind, body, and the outside world. Feelings of joy, sadness, anger, hope, and apathy directly affect your body. You feel emotions in a physical way.
So if you suffer from depression you aren’t just affected emotionally. Many physical ailments can be linked to depression. The physical symptoms include digestive problems, pain, trouble sleeping, and dizziness. If you’re dealing with anger you can experience high blood pressure and headaches. Negative thoughts put stress on the mind and body, and science has extensively documented the physical risks of high stress levels.
On the flip side, dwelling on positive thoughts can improve your health from the inside out! Actively employing positive thinking can boost your immune system. Think about that. You may already eat right, exercise, get enough sleep and take supplements, but positive thinking can fill in the gaps and strengthen your immune system too!
Studies have shown a link between a positive outlook and a variety of health benefits. Lower blood pressure, less heart disease, maintaining a healthy weight, and lower blood sugar levels are all attributed to optimistic thinking. An optimistic attitude can also help you recover and heal faster after injury or surgery.
But what if you aren’t a naturally optimistic person? Don’t despair! Here are four small things you can do every day to see the world in a better light and improve your health:
  1. Start off each day with a positive thought. It will help you set the tone for how you will choose to think for the day.
  2. Smile, smile, smile. There is something to the adage, “Fake it ‘til you make it.” When you make the effort to smile, your emotions will follow. Smiling will also draw others toward you creating a positive exchange that can lift your mood.
  3. Live one moment at a time. Stop worrying about the past and the future. Focus on the present and making that day the best it can be. Repeated brief moments of positive thinking can foster mental and physical health. Some of my clients find it helpful to practice mindfulness to help them focus and see the good in their day.
  4. Practice gratitude. Having a grateful attitude is linked to less stress and anxiety, sleeping more soundly, better physical health, greater satisfaction in life and relationships. Look for the moments, big and small, that you are thankful for. Some people keep a gratitude journal.

Positive thinking takes practice, but you can remake yourself into a positive person by re-training your brain to think positively! If you’re looking for the negative, the neural pathways for negative thinking become stronger. Your brain will lean toward the negative automatically. When you practice gratitude, and look for the good, you are activating different neural circuits in your brain. Dopamine and serotonin production is increased, producing calming results. The more you stimulate these circuits in your brain, the stronger and more automatic they become.
If you find yourself still overwhelmed by negative thoughts, and you live in the Portland, OR/Vancouver, WA area, please contact my office to set up an appointment. I also offer online therapy to those residing in Oregon or Washington states so you can get the help you need from the comfort of your own home. We’ll work to put your negative thoughts into perspective and cultivate the positive attitude that will improve your health and well-being.

Why Expatriates Can Benefit from Remote Counseling

Monday, April 17, 2017

Woman smiling and looking at computer screenAre you an expat? Are you living and/or working in a country other than your native one? Your reasons for moving abroad may have included secular work, volunteer work, retirement, or a quest to immerse yourself in a new culture for an extended period of time. It is an amazing privilege and experience to live in a new place and learn new things.

To be a successful expat, you know that you cannot simply recreate your old home and environment. So you’re probably working hard to learn the language. Maybe you’re experimenting with new ingredients and cooking techniques. You’re finding your new favorite market, coffee shop, breakfast nook, and bookstore. And you’re getting to know your new community and seek to become a contributing part of it.

These exciting changes and adjustments, though, are part of why some expats struggle emotionally. Take, for instance, suddenly living in an environment where few people speak your language. The people at work may speak it, but those in the community, on public transportation, at the market, and behind the counter at a restaurant may not. To be constrained by language barriers is isolating. Even when you have some grasp of your new language, fluency takes time and the process can be frustrating.

As an expat, you also have to adjust to your new environment. Your new area may not be as safe as your previous neighborhood, limiting mobility and walks alone. Or maybe your spouse is working, leaving you to fend for yourself during the day. And if you do want to grab lunch with a friend while your spouse is at work? They are all back in your native country, and phone calls can be expensive!

This can all lead to feelings of isolation, frustration, or depression. You realize that you could really use the help of a therapist to navigate your transition to a new life in a new country. But how do you find a therapist when you live abroad?

It can be a challenge. There may not be that many qualified therapists in your area. And finding them isn’t always easy. When you do find a good therapist, they may not speak your language. If you are living in a small community, there is also a chance you know the therapist. It can be uncomfortable to open up to someone who has connections to your outside life.

What is an expat to do? To fill this void in mental health care, I am starting a new service designed specifically for expatriates. Remote Counselling Services for Expats utilizes a HIPPA compliant, online video program to connect us, no matter where you are in the world. Via video conferences, I can help you navigate the unique situations that you face.

I have over thirty years of counseling experience, and I am so excited to offer my services to those living abroad! If you are an expatriate and are experiencing trouble adjusting to your new life, please take advantage of this unique, new service so you can get the most of your international experience and your life!

Dr Kathy Is a Panelist for the First Fielding Alumni Focus Webinar!

Monday, August 31, 2015

Banner for Fielding University Alumni Focus Webinar Book Publishing How hard can it be?Many of you may know that I earned my Ph.D. at Fielding Graduate University. I’m pleased and honored to be invited to be one of four panelists to speak at the first ever Fielding Alumni Focus Webinar. It feels good to be doing something for my Alma Mater again. I spent happy years learning at Fielding and now I have the privilege to share my expertise as a published author with the alumni and student community.
The topic of this Webinar is: Book Publishing, How Hard Can It Be? to be moderated by Dr. Carol-Anne Minski. Three other panelists – Elena Gillespie, Carol Minski, Jesse Sostrin – and I will discuss the ins and outs of getting your book published. It will be held on Tuesday, September 15th at 3:00 pm (PT).

My specific assignment is to talk about what it’s like to work with publishers – how I approached them and what the process consists of. I’ll also share how I work with retailers and collaborate with others to get my books published.
If you haven’t read my work, the following is a synopsis of books I've written:

Do You Have What It Takes To Work With Your Spouse Workbook
Based on my and experience coaching entrepreneurial couples, I’ve come up with a "Checklist for Success." Learn if you and your spouse have what it takes by working through this interactive workbook. Click here to learn more.

Entrepreneurial Couples - Making it Work at Work and at Home
Learn the traps entrepreneurial couples can fall into and find practical advice for dealing with them as you discover how a couple balances intimacy with family life and meaningful work. Click here to learn more.

Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge?
You may have heard about Asperger’s Syndrome in children, but what happens when autistics grow up and marry? Unlike Rain Man, who had a more severe form of autism, a smart, financially successful AS husband or wife can pass for normal, except at home. Click here to learn more.

Out of Mind – Out of Sight: Parenting with a Partner with Asperger Syndrome (ASD)
Take an honest look at the unique issues that come up when you’re co-parenting with an Asperger partner. So many of the interactions within the family circle require empathy, which are literally out of mind – out of sight for the Aspie (ASD) parent. This is essential reading for the Neuro-Typical (NT) parent to learn more about Asperger Syndrome and find a way to co-parent, co-exist and even thrive within the Asperger/NT family unit. Click here to learn more.

Enter My “Feedback” Contest on Facebook on My Books

Monday, December 08, 2014

enter dr Kathy Marshack feedback contest on facebook Have you enjoyed reading my books, Out of Mind – Out of Sight: Parenting with a Partner with Asperger Syndrome (ASD) and/or Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? (If you haven’t read them yet, you still have time. You can get them here.)

I’d really like to hear what you think of them, but I know you’re busy. So, as a big thank you for taking the time, I’m running a “Feedback” Contest on Facebook.

What’s the prize for entering the contest?

You’ll get to enjoy a free 20-minute remote educational conversation with me, Dr. Kathy Marshack. This is a $75 value. (This is not therapy. It’s for you to ask any follow up questions you have about the books or what you’ve read on the website.)

  • The winner will be notified on January 7, 2015 by email.
  • The winner will be announced on my Facebook page, so be sure to like my page and follow it so you can see who the winner is.
  • I have the discretionary authority to personally choose the comment that touches my heart the most. (I know this is going to be a tough choice, because so many of you in our AS Meetup Group have expressed such heartfelt appreciation already.)
  • You must schedule and use your conversation by March 30th or you forfeit the prize.

The rules for the contest are simple:

  • The contest begins: December 8, 2014
  • The contest ends: midnight December 31, 2014
  • Fill in your real name, email, and phone number (so we can schedule your prize.)
  • Provide a heartfelt comment about one or both of my Asperger Syndrome books.
  • Please include the name of the book in your comments. (You can use these abbreviated names: Out of Mind or Going over the Edge)
  • Since your comments may be used for promotional purposes, please end your comment with how you’d like to be listed on my website, should we choose to do so. Otherwise, we will use the name you filled in the form with. You may use your initials, your first name, or your full name and please list your country (I have a global community so I’d really like to know where you’re writing from.)
  • One entry per person.

When you visit my Facebook page, you’ll see a green tab called, FEEDBACK CONTEST. Or better yet, go directly to the CONTEST.  I’m really excited to hear what you have to say.

Dr. Kathy Marshack Has Moved to a New Office in Portland Oregon

Sunday, August 03, 2014

Hayden Island Plaza Dr Kathy Marshack's new office in Portland OregonIf you’ve been part of my community for any length of time, you know that I’ve been looking for a new home and office this year. It’s made life very busy and hectic trying to pull it altogether while still caring for my patients. But with the loyal help from my assistant, Michelle, (Thank you so much!) we’ve been able to accomplish it.

I’m happy to announce that as of Monday, August 4th, the office for Dr. Kathy Marshack, is open on Hayden Island in Portland, Oregon. Yes, we’ve moved to a new state, but we’re moving only a few miles across the Columbia River, so it’s actually only minutes from the old office location. Our new address is:

700 N Hayden Island Drive
Suite 274
Portland, OR 97217

I love my new office. It’s easy to find. It’s still conveniently located for all of my patients in Washington and Oregon. There is plenty of parking. And since it’s so close to the Columbia River, it’s perfect for taking a short walk and clearing your mind. For the convenience of those on the south side of Portland and City Center, I will still see clients at the office off Macadam in John's Landing neighborhood in Portland. Need to set up an appointment? You can still contact my office here.

Thank you to everyone who has made this move as painless as possible. I appreciate what each one of you has done.

Is Your Bucket List Half Empty or Half Full?

Wednesday, September 04, 2013

things to doWhat’s in your “Bucket List”? That term has become synonymous with the list of things you’d like to accomplish in life before it’s too late. It refers to choosing to live in a way now so you have no regrets later.

What are some of the things that people regret the most? An Australian nurse who cared for the dying noticed 5 recurring regrets her patients had:

  • Not living a life true to self, but doing what others expect
  • Not taking time to enjoy life because of working too much
  • Not having the courage to say what you feel
  • Not staying in touch with friends
  • Not letting yourself be happy

All of these regrets involve the choices we make. It’s never too late to make your life richer and more meaningful. It all boils down to your attitude and the choices you make. If you don’t take yourself too seriously and do more to get involved in life and with people, you won’t have regrets over the “I wish I’d done” list.

Some look at life with a glass half empty attitude, which is the negative way of thinking. Others choose to look at life with a glass half full attitude – positively working toward filling their lives with meaning.

I was honored to have an essay included in the book, Sixty Things to Do When You Turn Sixty. It helps Baby Boomers who are approaching their sixties to see the positive as you purposefully choose to make the best out of your life. My own experience taught me that even the trying circumstances in life can be turned into something positive.

How Does Neuro Emotional Technique Work?

Wednesday, August 28, 2013

NET lets your body release the stressPerhaps you’re driving in rush hour traffic and someone swerves into your lane. You immediately take evasive action or jam on the breaks. Your hands sweat, your heart pumps faster, adrenaline rushes through your body. Your cells told your body to get ready. It’s triggering the fight or flight response. This same process can also occur when a person is simply recalling that stressful event weeks or years later. Your body replicates the same response just from the memory.

Take another example…visualize biting into a lemon. Think about its bright yellow color, its fragrance, and its sharp flavor. Doesn’t just thinking about it make your mouth water? The memory of your previous taste of a lemon replicates the same response in your body today even though you don’t have a lemon near you. 

The body’s response to stress works the same way. Emotional responses are made up of neuropeptides (amino acid chains) that attach to their receptors on your tissue cells. Stressful situations cause the part of the cell called the neuron to eject these amino acid chains so that they carry their “message” to other parts of your body where they become attached to their neuroreceptors.
Normally we deal with a stressful situation and move on. But sometimes, our system is out of balance and won’t let go of it. That’s where NET (Neuro Emotional Technique) helps. NET helps you find and remove these unresolved stress patterns, then your body and mind can heal itself relieving you of the headaches, chronic pain, phobia or whatever symptom that is caused by this unresolved stress.

Do you find that situations from your past still cause you great discomfort today? Perhaps it’s time to consult with a NET practitioner. If you are near Portland, Oregon/Vancouver, Washington,contact my office and set up an appointment.

For more information read my website – Depression and Stress.

What is a NET Practitioner?

Monday, August 19, 2013

treat holistically mind body connectionNET stands for Neuro Emotional Technique. It is an approach to helping stress related conditions through improving the mind-body relationship. A NET practitioner knows that you must treat the whole person. It was developed in the early 1980’s by Scott Walker, DC. He first developed a procedure using a specific chiropractic adjustment that achieved astounding psychological and physiological improvements. Then in the 1990’s NET was enlarged to address these four major components that affect your total well-being:

  1. Effects of emotional or stress related factors. NET is one approach used to treat these.
  2. Effects of toxins (things that are in the body and shouldn’t be there). Specific homeopathic support can help.
  3. Effects of nutrition (things that should be in your body but aren’t) Diet and nutritional support can help.
  4. Effects of structural and physical corrections. Chiropractic treatments help this.

Stress affects the body in many ways – chronic pain, organ dysfunctions, neurological problems, musculoskeletal and immunological conditions, allergies, headaches and more.

Stress also affects the mind creating phobias, depression, anxieties, ADD / ADHD, nightmares, disruptive behavior, fear of public speaking and more. 

NET doesn’t “cure” the patient. Rather it removes blocks, allowing the body to repair itself naturally.

NET practitioners determine which stress factors are contributing to the patient’s condition by employing the Manual Muscle Test. This accesses how emotions affect the way your body works. Muscles will usually test strong when a patient makes a statement with which he is in harmony, where in contrast a muscle will usually test weak when the patient says a non-harmonizing statement.

The practitioner determines which application is needed to correct the weakness. When the appropriate intervention is achieved, the previously weak Manual Muscle Test will now test strong. Follow up visits determines if the initial stress factors are stabilized.

The primary goal of NET is to resolve mind-body stress. The treatment process includes having the patient connect with his “feelings” around a stress-related issue (the memory/physiological dynamic) while a correction is made to allow the body to stop the unresolved stress response.

If you’re tired of being treated for the symptoms and want to finally get to the root of your health problems, perhaps it’s time to consult with a NET practitioner. If you are looking for a NET Practitioner in Portland, Oregon or Vancouver, Washington, contact my office and set up an appointment.

For more information read my website – Mind & Body Health Holistic Health Consciousness.

Interview in “Everyday Health” – Coping with a Partner’s Asperger’s Syndrome

Friday, July 20, 2012

I was recently interviewed for an article in Everyday Health about Asperger Syndrome and relationships. The article is entitled, "Coping with a Partner's Asperger's Syndrome." I address the unique challenges that this situation creates as well as fours ways to cope when your partner has Asperger Syndrome.

Included in the article are two real life individuals with Asperger partners. Sharing these intimates details requires courage and I applaud them for sharing. There is also a nice plug for our local support group: Asperger Syndrome: Partner's and Family of Adults with ASD.

For more information about Asperger relationships, visit my website - Asperger's & Marriage. My book, Life with a Partner or Spouse with Asperger Syndrome: Going Over the Edge? is also available.

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